It’s time to shop for school clothes.
Shopping for school clothes with your daughter (or son!) doesn’t have to be a frustrating experience.
Don’t dread this activity you can turn it into a fun experience you’ll remember from years to come.
Three rules for you … the parent ~
1) Pick your battles. Some things are just not worth arguing over. I like to use this rule all the way around.
2) Don’t force your daughter into your style. We know it’s difficult but you should also not be trying your daughter’s style on you!
3) Be present. Put the phone away! Plan for a full day of dedication to your kids and shopping!
Start planning your shopping trip ~
#1 HELP HER START PLANNING
- Evaluate and clean out her closet – Evaluate your daughter’s closet with her, and determine what she’ll need for the school year. This is a great moment to help her learn this important skill.
- Start an idea board – Now that she knows what she needs, have your daughter start looking through magazines or on Pinterest, and start putting together ideas or styles that she likes.
#2 SET GROUND RULES
- Establish a budget – It’s never too early to learn to be responsible with finances. So, give your daughter a budget beforehand so she can start getting an idea of what she should buy to maximize her budget.
- Establish a dress code – Your daughter’s school likely has a dress code, and you may have certain expectations based on your family’s values. Make sure you address these with your daughter before your shopping trip.
#3 MAKE IT SPECIAL
This is by far the most important step. Show your daughter that this shopping trip is important to you, and make it into a fun day out with each other.
- Set a date – Pick a day where you’ll both have plenty of time to shop without being rushed.
- Add an activity – There’s no reason to limit this trip to just shopping. Make it a date and go see a movie or sit down for lunch or dinner at her favorite restaurant.
- Give her a special piece of jewelry – Make her feel special by giving her a necklace with her initials, or a piece that reminds you of her. Make sure to tell her why you chose what you did.
#4 HELP HER PICK OUT HER CLOTHES
Time for the big day! As you shop, be helpful to her, and keep the following things in mind.
- Let her be herself – The more she feels like she is expressing herself, the happier she will be about what she is wearing.
- Let her make mistakes – If she’s insistent about buying something that you know she won’t wear/will regret, you may want to let her make that mistake (as long as it’s within the bounds you’ve set) and learn from it.
- Find teaching moments – As she’s making decisions, find moments to teach about how to shop (i.e., make sure she has her wardrobe staples, make sure she buys clothes that are good quality and will last, etc.)
#5 HELP HER ACCESSORIZE
This is a big one! Unlike clothes, jewelry can truly last a lifetime, so be sure to help her make good choices for her accessories.
- Teach her the importance of basics – Make sure she has pieces that she can wear every day that go with most of her wardrobe.
- Help her complete the look – Teach her how to use a piece of jewelry to tie an outfit together (this is especially helpful for you if you aren’t loving the outfit, and can help it with an accessory).