As parents, you deal with different kinds of responsibilities every day — meeting deadlines at work, doing laundry, tidying up the house, attending to the needs of your kids, etc. There seems to be a lot that needs to be done; sometimes it's a wonder how you can even squeeze in all of these tasks in 24 hours and still have the time for yourself and your family.
Nevertheless, while there are parents who seem to be juggling work, me-time, and family time pretty well, this isn't always the case for every mother or father out there. Sometimes different aspects of your life require more attention, which more often than not results in less time for your family.
It's a sad thing when this happens as it usually affects your emotional health, your relationships with your family, and your overall happiness. Of course, many factors can contribute to your lack of family time, and the Oola philosophy somehow echoes the same thought.
Based on the international bestselling book, "Oola: Finding Balance in an Unbalanced World", Oola is a kind of lifestyle that takes 7 F's into consideration in order to have a balanced life. These 7 F's include fitness, finance, family, field (career), faith, friends, and fun.
Balancing all these areas of your life may be intimidating, but tackling them one by one and one step at a time may be able to help you figure out how to do just that. So when it comes to your family, here are some tips on how you can spend more quality time with them:
Re-assess your to-do list
Categorizing your tasks and scheduling them throughout the week (or month) will help you have a clearer picture of how much time you need for work and chores as well as the time left for you and your family. Determine which tasks should be prioritized and delegate those that can be done by others or when you see that your schedule is full.
Involve your kids
It can be hard to convince the kids to help out with some chores, after all they also have school responsibilities and their own lives to live. Nevertheless, being respectful of their time may help encourage them to do household tasks willingly. Catch up with them and ask them about their schedule for the week or month. From there, you could assign them with chores on specific days. It would also help if you train them at an early age so that they become aware of their responsibilities at home as well.
Create new traditions
Parents.com says to not wait for the holidays, vacations, or special occasions to bond with your family. Make it a point to plan special activities regularly. It can be as simple as having breakfast together every Sunday or going out for dinner at least once a week.
All Pro Dad agrees by saying that family dinners are very important and adds that there should be no TV, cellphones, or other distractions during a family meal. Of course, this doesn't need to happen every day or every night, but when your family is able to gather and share a meal, everyone should ensure that they are fully devoting their time to each other.
Make sure family time is fun
Pay attention to the interests and preferences of each member and create a relaxing atmosphere where everyone can just have fun and feel at ease. When you need to talk about serious topics, make sure that the tone of the conversation is not confrontational, condescending, or anything negative. Family time should be something everyone is looking forward to.
Ensure that you give enough attention to each of your children
This can really be a challenge for big families because you, as a parent, should be able to give individual attention to every child. It is also important to note that your kids are of different ages, and even if you have twins, their needs may still be unique from each other.
Your Modern Family reinforces the idea of making each child feel important and taking the time to know him/her even better. Learning about their habits and personalities will help you form more tight-knit relationships with them as well.
Lastly, make sure that you listen to them no matter what they want to talk about. Encourage them to communicate in whatever way is comfortable for them and don't simply impose family time. Being sensitive to their feelings and respecting their own space will surely help in making your home a happier place.